December 24, 2020
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We have often heard that parenting is not easy and involves fighting constant battles. But is it worth the battles? Of course, it is. Your kids would be all the reward that you would need. However, some advice from the experienced, can help you understand and prepare better.
Here, we have compiled a list of tips on parenting from mothers that’d help you navigate through the growing years of your child.
1. Let your little one discover the world
By this, we mean that we give them the freedom that they need. As a mother or a parent, it is understandable that you would always be worried. But ask yourself a question: if you do not let them wander around or are constantly worrying, will they grow? Growing up means getting out of the safe cocoon, which is what your child ought to do, as well. Of course, an amount of regulation is necessary but don’t worry too much. Let them learn by making mistakes.
2. Be a role model for your child
We, as humans have this inherent habit of imitating what our role models do. For your little one, you would be their role model. Therefore, be the person you want your child to be. Love them unconditionally, for they would do the same. Read to them, show them what is right and what is wrong and inculcate positive behaviour among them.
Loving your child, on the other hand, does not mean giving them whatever they want. That would simply indulge them. Leniency and indulging them in too many materialistic things would not be healthy. One of the best tips of parenting by mothers is that loving them means listening to your kids and understanding them, above all.
3. Firm and positive parenting
A firm behaviour with your child does not mean taking punitive measures whenever they are wrong. If your little one has made a mistake, which they will (at some point), show them why it is wrong and make them understand why they should refrain from repeating such behaviour. Having such a positive attitude towards their growth will inculcate compassion among them and they would grow up to reflect the same.
Have little traditions of your own like singing a silly song while you are bathing them, a family picnic every weekend in the park, dramatic display of the characters in your baby’s books by your partner and you, to name a few.
4. Praise them on their good behaviour
Think of it this way: how do you feel about a boss who would constantly pick on you as against a boss who praises you for the tiniest work you did well? Exactly.
Your little one would love it if you noticed their positive behaviour and praised them. They would realize you are noticing them, and your encouragement would lead them to be better. Be generous with your rewards; which need not be materialistic. A simple hug or your love would do wonders.
5. Discipline and consistency
Discipline is a necessary element for kids to grow up. It helps them to understand acceptable behaviour and learn self-control.
If you outline what they ought to do or how they must behave, make sure that they know the consequences of bad behavior. This does not mean you ought to be harsh. You can very well specify that they cannot watch their favourite cartoon unless they finish their meals and homework. But do make sure that you are consistent with your words. If you are not, they would understand that you are being too lenient and would never take you seriously.
5. Have your own quality time with them
It is important to play with your children or read to them. Let them choose the game and let them win, now and then. What is important for you is to have fun with them.
You children would love your voice. That’s what soothes them. So, read to them or sing them a lullaby. Let them know that they are important. It is important to make them feel loved. Don’t let anything intrude your time with your kids.
6. Be ready for sick days
This is probably one of the most important rules of parenting: stock up on the essential supplies of medicines and other materials. This will prevent you from running errands now and then or realizing at the last minute that you do not have something important.
7. Finally, find your tribe
Your little angel is important but so are you, to yourself. Do not be too hard on yourself. Remember to let it out, now and then. Take turns with your partner to be with your kids while you go out with your friends. Plan for that date night with your partner that you have been postponing. If not anything, take just time off to watch your favourite movie or make yourself a perfect bath and a meal.
Kids are a reflection of their parents and the way they grow up. They learn from their surroundings. This is why no one ever said parenthood is easy. It is constant hard work but very rewarding. We hope that these few tips on parenting from mothers and their experiences would give you a head-start and give you a little insight into the experiences of other parents.