December 24, 2020
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Human bodies are mysterious in their work, sometimes we don’t understand why some things happen. Infertility is one of them. But if you are a couple who wants a child, then don’t be disheartened by the issue. Today, science has made it possible to tackle most of the problems very well. If you cannot have a baby by natural means, there are a lot of other options out there. Becoming a parent through surrogacy is one of them. Basically, when you opt surrogacy as your option, another woman will carry your pregnancy for you. A lot of people around the world, including celebrities have opted for surrogacy to carry their babies. It is one of the common methods of Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART).
Due to the complex nature of the entire process, surrogacy has some ethical, social, moral and legal conditions associated with it. No need to be anxious though. Your counsellor or your gynaecologist will help you navigate through these issues. It may seem a little overwhelming, but you are not alone, surrogacy is one of the important medical procedures which can provide the happiness of parenting to couples who cannot reproduce due to various reasons. The people involved in this process will be you and your partner (intended parents) and the surrogate mother. Once you go through all the paperwork and legalities (with the help of your guide), you move on to the procedure and then get ready to greet your little one soon.
You might be wondering when you and your partner should have “the talk”. When should you start considering surrogacy as an option? What are the possible reasons to choose surrogacy? Well, ladies, we are here to help you through it. Get a glass of your favourite beverage and read through.
Surrogacy laws might differ from country to country, however in India, you can opt for surrogacy if you and your partner have been trying to have a baby by natural means for five years and have had no luck. There are also provisions to choose the method if it is physically/medically impossible for you to have a baby.
However, in the western countries, the rules are not as rigid; surrogacy is also permitted there for a variety of other reasons, apart from infertility. Let us take a look at them.
Due to certain factors, one might decide that they want a baby, but not a partner. What to do in such conditions? They can opt for surrogacy as it lets them have a baby with their genetic components via the surrogate mother and sharing the journey of pregnancy is fully optional. Becoming a parent through surrogacy can be a truly enriching experience.
Mother’s medical conditions
While it is unfortunate, some women might have medical conditions which prevent them from having a baby. Absence of the uterus, which might be as a result of hysterectomy or by birth is one of the common causes. If the mother -to- be has other serious conditions like heart disease, cancer, renal failure or fibroids in the uterus, it might be the safest option to choose a surrogate. In the meantime, you take the best care of yourself and become as healthy as possible for your little marvel.
Same sex couples
It is not possible for same sex couples to produce a child of their own, but hey! Surrogacy can be your best option to get that tiny addition to your family and experience the joy of parenthood. Lesbian couples can choose surrogacy as the resulting embryo from one of the partners can be transferred and carried by the other one.
Lifestyle – By choice
There is no hard and fast rule that you can be a mother only if you carry a child in your womb. You can be every bit of a mother even if you choose to have a baby outside of your body. Like with everything else, here too, women are given a chance to make their own choice. Some of them might not like to carry a baby due to work factors, some might be traumatized from previous birth experiences or miscarriages or sometimes, one might not just like it! If you feel one of these ways but would still like to parent a baby, then surrogacy is one of your options.
There you go! You now know when you should consider becoming a parent through surrogacy as an option. In spite of knowing these, it is always safer to have a conversation with an expert in the matter and also educate yourselves about the laws related to surrogacy in the countries you dwell in. You might come to the decision of surrogacy easily or you could have some difficulty processing all these. While you don’t experience the pregnancy physically, emotionally, you can still be a part of it. The journey may seem stressful sometimes, but kudos to you guys! You have made the beautiful decision of embracing parenthood and once that precious bundle of joy is added to your family, you would be happier than ever!